Attachment is many things.
The mother-child attachment is our most significant relationship. It
is the relationship to which all others are compared.
It is basic, yet complex.
It is reciprocal. Give & take. Created between two people.
Attunement. Needs being met.
Gazing. It is the giving and receiving of eye contact.
It is our first chance to practice maintaining attention.
Touching. Holding. Rocking. Playing.
In the first year of life, it means that the primary caregiver
consistently responds to and appropriately meets the needs of the
In the second year of life, it means that the child has the confidence
that his parent will keep him safe, that he/she can explore the
environment using his parent’s presence as reassurance. It means
that the child can accept the parent’s limits (“no”).
It is developed when the child is encouraged to feel the joy of play
while interacting with a responsive primary caregiver.
It facilitates healthy brain development. In fact the abuse &
neglect often experienced by those with Attachment Disorder, have
functional and structural brain deficits that show up in MRI’s.
Having it is a requisite for having other healthy relationships and a
It is on a continuum. We are all on the continuum somewhere.
Having an attachment with a primary caregiver allows for the
development of trust and a positive world view.
It allows for the development of a conscience and the ability to
regulate emotions. The lack of this is probably the biggest problem
in those with attachment disorder and is a component of almost all
psychiatric disorders (of childhood and adulthood).
It allows for the attainment of full intellectual potential.
It can be created with a willing mother/mother-figure and the
necessary specialized treatment.
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